I believe that if what you’ve written speaks to someone, it’s only because your words are being read by a similar feeling heart.
I am very intrigued by the subject of Human Psychology. Recently, I came across an article in the field of ‘Neuroscience’ which talks about why humans are naturally predisposed to feeling miserable. My first thought was “hmmm, that explains a lot!”
That’s the thing with writing – through it, we give the readers a glimpse into our mind. It isn’t easy to let it all out for the world to see. It is a brave display of our innermost thoughts, available for anyone to judge. But we aren’t deterred. We bare it all because we are being true to ourselves, and that is what matters the most at the end of the day.
The opportunity to write for a popular online community of mothers, made me think of the things I do that help me practise Self-Love. I came up with a list. But I’m gonna explain each point with the help of THE TOP THING I surround myself with to feel good – MUSIC. If you get nothing else from this piece, you will, at the very least, have listened to a cool and unique song by the end of it.
I actually have time to listen to my own mind. Things I push back most days “coz I’m busy”. It’s been overwhelming as I understand those things are becoming priority for me, as I’m able to focus on things that are more important in life. Because the outside noise is gone, I have time to just BE.
These techniques are basically thought patterns and attitudes that you can cultivate over time, to help you cope better during tough days and difficult situations. Emotional strength comes with effort, as with everything good.
We bond like crazy in a world of our own. It gives me great joy to hear her giggle at something I said or did. Because when she misses her dad(who has been away sailing for months) that pain pierces right through my heart. I can’t do anything to help the situation. At that moment, I can only put on a brave face and distract her by being happy-happy myself, pretending that it’s not a big deal. So when I’m able to make her laugh it gives me peace knowing that she is happy. I think to myself – “She misses her dad, but for now, I am enough.”
Sometimes she wonders if she is fit to handle life and fantasizes about her younger days before marriage. There pops the thought “Why did I go and get married in the first place?” But rarely does she try to answer that question for herself. During our dating years, in one of those typical conversations about “our future” (yup, that one that guys particularly hate), when I asked him what was his idea of what marriage is like, he said something surprisingly profound that has stayed with me since.